I just want to start this e-mail off by thanking you for the work that you have done. I am very happy that we have an advocate like you that is championing this issue. As a former STNA Trainee in the state of Ohio, I can honestly say that some of the best times of my life were spent working in a nursing home setting. Some of those people are the most awesome people that you will ever get a chance to meet. Many of them are isolated from family and former friends and very much alone. The type of depression that that brings is disheartening. I can only imagine going through the nursing home experience as a gay/lesbian/transgendered member of the community.I would like to know if I can get involved in any possible way. I live on a fixed income, so donations are just not possible, but I would like to get involved in letter/mailing campaigns or in possible outreach to the local area. I live in New Philadelphia, Ohio.Thank you for your time,Eric Dawson
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No. 2 · Tim in SFWow, Queerty, thank you for posting this.Posted: Jul 22, 2009 at 2:51 pm · @Reply · [Flag?]
Important posting. Thanks.
The health care problem isn't just an issue for gays when they are older. It is an issue for them their entire life. If you are not on a domestic partner registry (or if your state does not have a domestic partner registry) then you can be denied entrance to your partner's hospital room if the family decides you shouldn't have entrance. Power of attorney and visitation rights if often trumped by laws that recognize the next of kin as having sole rights in the matter no matter what legal documents exist.
Wow, I need to go watch this. I hope it's free as I have no way of purchasing it. Amazing post regardless.
We Americans treat all elderly folks like shit. We ignore them or patronize them or stuff them away in crappy nursing homes until they die. We certainly don't learn from them or seek their considerable wisdom. Older gay folks have it even worse. At least we're starting to see gray-gay housing pop up here and there.
This really hit home for me. I went to the hospital with kidney stones and the pain I went through was insufferable. A gay couple who were there was the talk of the room out of earshot.I thought about what would happen to me if for some reason I found myself old, alone, and at the mercy of some sanctimonious or just outright evil nursing home workers. It was scary indeed.I shall be there on opening night.Posted: Jul 22, 2009 at 10:37 pm · @Reply · [Flag?]
There was a story in the news here not too long ago about a straight couple who were being thrown out of their church-run residence because they were not married. I can't remember how it finally got resolved, I think they threatened to take it to the Human Rights Commission and the home caved, but not everyone has that kind of energy and resources.If straights run into shit like that imagine how much worse it must be for older gay couples.Posted: Jul 23, 2009 at 1:31 pm · @Reply · [Flag?]
Me?I'll let you know when I actually get to an age at which that is a concern. Last time I was in a hospital was when I got my tonsils out as a kid. Fortunately I don't have to worry about a health care "industry" draining my bank account if I ever get sick.But why are you asking me? you never believe anything I say anyway.You'll be in the market for bifocals and a walker soon enough yourself, and then I expect you'll be complaining about all the young whippersnappers who don't know anything.Posted: Jul 23, 2009 at 5:06 pm · @Reply · [Flag?]